Planned Parenthood respects and honors me as an individual!
“As a first-generation Asian Canadian female and only child of devout Roman Catholic Filipino immigrant parents, I grew up in Winnipeg, Manitoba very sheltered and scared of the world. I was taught the best way to prevent pregnancy and STD’s was to be abstinent. There was no other option but to refrain from sexual activity and stay away from boys. However, in a teenager’s world, that is very unrealistic and not practical advice. Living in America, at the age of 14 (going on 20), my world was filled with peer pressure to experiment with alcohol, drugs, sex, and unlawful activities. What was being taught in school and at home went through one ear and out the other. All the other teenagers were doing the same; some better than others. Kids would put on an act while at school or home, and when no adults were there, teenagers were wild, rebellious, hell-bent on finding freedom from all the rules and regulations! My mother knew that I had lost my virginity and she made me promise not to do ‘it’ again. Which of course I did the exact opposite. I was a teenager; rebelling from the Asian culture, religious influence, and disciplinarian mother.
When we moved to Utah, I tried so hard just to belong, be accepted, have friends, and be liked. I compromised my true-self; my values and morals to just be worthy of friends. It is no wonder that I found myself missing my menstruation the summer of my high school graduation. I was 16 years old and thought I was invincible. It was not my first time to have unprotected sex and using the “pull-out” method. A friend of mine told me of a place that could do the pregnancy test confidentially and at no charge. There was no way that I was going to tell my mom and the guy was nowhere to be found. So, on my own without any support, I went to Planned Parenthood for a pregnancy test.
Alone in the patient room at Planned Parenthood, the nurse gave me comfort, attention, and genuine concern for my well-being. There was no judgment, no feelings of shame, just pure trust and open-mindedness. I felt safe; yet very numb at the same time. She gave me resources for the different options I had. There was no rush – she was calm, nurturing and willing to answer any questions I had. That nurse gave me so much at that moment. It was not only what she said or did; it was how she made me feel.
Planned Parenthood is more than just a clinic that provides services. It is about the people behind the scenes, the people who work there every day with great light and love for every person who comes in through the doors. The atmosphere and energy are unique. The staff is genuine and down to earth. Life happens, and we all make decisions that are not always for our highest good but, that is not for anyone else to judge, decided, outcast, demean, or ridicule others on their choices.
As a single mom of 3 girls, registered nurse for 18 years, graduate of 2 Master’s degrees: Nursing Informatics and Healthcare Administration and Management, and full-time Ph.D. Mind-Body Medicine student, I believe very passionately that MY RIGHTS – WOMEN’S RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS!!!
Planned Parenthood respects and honors me as an individual! Planned Parenthood respects ALL HUMAN BEINGS! Planned Parenthood IS AMAZING!”